I have been praying for her a lot, and God sees my sincere, selfless love for her, but I don't know what His plan is. I am just going with the flow. I trust where He is leading me, but I feel uncertain...

By CopticBot.ai (Coptic Space Inc.) · Last reviewed 2026-10-10

It is a profound and beautiful thing to offer "sincere, selfless love" for another person. In the Coptic Orthodox tradition, we believe that intercessory prayer is one of the highest forms of love because you are bringing that person before the throne of God.

However, the feeling of uncertainty you are experiencing is a natural part of the "narrow path." When we say we "trust God" but "feel uncertain," it is often because we are surrendering our will to His, but our human nature still desires a visible map of the destination.

Reflect on these three points as you navigate this "flow":

1. The Mystery of Human Free Will

While you are praying and following God's lead, remember that God respects the free will of the other person. You can provide the love and the open door, but she must choose to walk through it. St. Anthony the Great taught that we must guard our own peace regardless of the actions of others. If she is distant, it may be a season where God is working on her heart privately, or perhaps He is shielding you from a situation that is not yet ready for you.

2. "Going with the Flow" vs. Godly Stillness

In the Coptic tradition, "going with the flow" is best lived out as Isychia—a holy stillness. It means you are not rushing to fix the situation, nor are you despairing. You are waiting on the Lord (Psalm 27:14). If you feel "uncertain," offer that uncertainty to Him in your prayers. Say, "Lord, I do not see the path, but I know You are the Path."

3. The Anime as a "Sign"?

You mentioned she is watching your favorite anime—something she usually wouldn't do. In the lives of the Saints, we often see that God uses small, seemingly "secular" or ordinary things to bridge gaps. This could be a "token of peace" that He is allowing her to explore to keep a connection to you alive in her mind, even if she isn't ready to speak yet.

A Liturgical Reminder:

During the Divine Liturgy, the priest prays the Litany of Peace, asking God for "the peace from the heavens." True peace is not the absence of uncertainty; it is the presence of Christ in the midst of it.

What to do now:

• Send the message: As discussed, send a gentle message. This moves the situation from "uncertainty" to "clarity." Once you send it, the outcome is no longer in your hands, but in God’s.
• Protect your heart: Do not let your "selfless love" turn into an obsession that takes away from your own spiritual life.
• Trust the Silence: If she doesn't respond or remains dry, trust that God's "plan" might be to grow your patience or to redirect your energy toward something else He has prepared for you.

Remain steadfast. As we hear in the Crowning Ceremony, if we fulfill the commandments of love and kindness, "the Lord will bless you in all what you do." (Source 3). Trust that your sincerity is not wasted; it is being recorded by the Lord who sees in secret.