Why did Sarah call Abraham “lord,” and why did Abigail call Nabal “lord”? How can we explain this to sixth-grade boys?

By CopticBot.ai (Coptic Space Inc.) · Last reviewed 2026-10-10

When explaining this to sixth-grade boys, it is important to first clarify the difference between "Lord" as a title for God and "lord" as a title of respect used in ancient times.

In the Coptic Orthodox tradition, we view the Holy Scriptures within their historical and cultural context. Here is how you can explain this to them:

1. The Meaning of the Word

In the original languages of the Bible, the word used for "lord" (in lowercase) simply meant "master," "sir," or "leader." When Sarah called Abraham "lord" (Genesis 18:12) or when Abigail used it, they were not worshipping their husbands as gods. Instead, they were using the highest form of politeness and respect available in their language at that time.

It is similar to how someone might address a judge as "Your Honor" or a king as "Your Majesty" today. It defines a relationship of order and respect, not divine worship.

2. The Order of the Family

The Church teaches that the family is a "Small Church". In a church, there is order: Christ is the Head of the Church, the Bishop or Priest leads the congregation, and in a household, the father is called to be the head.

St. Peter actually points to Sarah as an example of this (1 Peter 3:6). By calling Abraham "lord," she was showing that she respected his role as the protector and leader of the family. For sixth-grade boys, you can explain that being a "lord" or a leader in a family isn't about being a boss or a bully; it’s about responsibility. Abraham had the responsibility to protect Sarah and lead his household in the way of Phnouti* - God.

3. Abigail and Nabal: Respect Even for the Unworthy

The case of Abigail and Nabal is a great lesson in character. Nabal was a "son of Belial" (a wicked man), yet Abigail still used respectful language.

• The Lesson: We show respect to others not necessarily because they have earned it, but because of who we are as children of God. Abigail was a woman of wisdom and grace. By remaining respectful (addressing him with honor), she maintained her own dignity and eventually saved her entire household from destruction.

4. Summary for the Boys:

• Respect Is a Strength: Just as we honor our parents or our priest, Sarah and Abigail showed strength through their humility.
• The Golden Rule: We should treat each other with love and respect because we are all God’s creation.
• Proper Worship: We only worship Pchois* - The Lord Jesus Christ as our Master and God. Anyone else we call "lord" in a historical context is simply receiving human respect for their position.

By using these titles, these holy women were showing that a peaceful and godly home is built on mutual respect and recognizing the order that God established for the family.