Can I just say I can't come until a certain time, or is it okay if I show up later? Usually, they ask why, and I don't feel like elaborating. To be honest, since they already marked me as not always there, it probably isn't that weird.

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Rather than simply arriving late, tell the servant in charge when you can come, briefly explain that you are attending the Liturgy, and ask whether that works for the group’s coverage. A short explanation is enough; being marked as not always available does not replace transparency and coordination in service.

While it may seem easier to simply state your arrival time without detail, being a faithful servant in the Coptic Church involves walking in the light and practicing the "simplicity of heart" taught by the Desert Fathers. Here is how to handle this according to the spirit of Coptic service: 1. The Importance of "Blessing" In our tradition, we do not just "do things"; we do them with a blessing. If you just show up late, even if you are marked as "not always available," you are acting on your own will. If you tell the servant in charge, "I'll be there at [Time] because I'm attending the Liturgy for the start of the Fast of St. Mary," you are acting under the umbrella of the Church. There is no reason to feel like you shouldn't elaborate. Attending a Liturgy is a holy and noble reason. If they know you are at church, they will respect that. If they think you are just "sleeping in" or "busy with errands," it sets a poor example for the other servants. 2. Avoid "Self-Management" The temptation to "self-manage" your schedule without explaining why is often a small trap of the ego. It makes the service about your convenience rather than the body of the servants. The Advice: Be straightforward. You don't have to give a long speech. A simple text or word to the head servant is enough: "Hey, since I'm already marked as not always available, I wanted to let you know I'll be coming in at [Time] on Friday so I can attend the Liturgy for the start of the Fast. Is that okay with the group coverage?" 3. Integrity in Service Even if "they don't NEED you," God sees your commitment. If you are there, be 100% there. If you aren't there, let it be known why. Coptic Truth: A servant who avoids the "distracting kids" and hides their schedule is seeking a comfortable service. A faithful servant seeks a sanctified service. Sanctification comes through the struggle of being present even when it's loud, and being transparent even when it's awkward. Go to the Liturgy, get the blessing of the Fast of the Theotokos, and then go to your service with a refreshed heart, ready to stand with those kids and be a witness to them.

Can I just say I can't come until a certain time, or is it okay if I show up later? Usually, they ask why, and I don't feel like elaborating. To be honest, since they already marked me as not always there, it probably isn't that weird.

1. The Importance of "Blessing"

2. Avoid "Self-Management"

3. Integrity in Service

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